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by Laura Deming
www.honolulucounselingandcoaching.com

1. “For peace of mind, resign as general manager of the universe.” (Anon.)  Understand and accept what you can control, and what you can’t. Don’t waste your time and your emotional, mental and physical energy worrying about things you can’t control. Life is too short.

2. Don’t try to do it all. The idea that we can do it all is a myth and a trap--don’t fall into it.  And don’t aspire to perfection; it doesn’t exist. Don’t be upset when you can’t be the perfect partner, perfect parent, perfect employee, perfect student, perfect friend…. Just do the best you can.

3. Set boundaries and learn to say no. Expect kindness and respect from others. You teach people how to treat you; be careful what you teach them. Never let anyone treat you in a way you wouldn’t want your own child to be treated.      

4. Take time for yourself. Pursue a hobby, go to the gym, take a leisurely bath…. And don’t feel guilty about it. Self-care--taking the time to do healthy activities you enjoy and that calm and replenish you--is not selfish, but a gift to those who care about you.

5. Practice gratitude. Every day, make a conscious decision to focus on the good things in your life and be grateful for them. Focusing on the negative and forgetting or discounting the positive is a habit that can blind you to life’s blessings and small joys.

6. Be your own life manager. Look at the daily activities that consume your time and energy. Be sure they reflect your personal, relationship and career priorities. Assess the effectiveness of your efforts. Keep what’s working; seek creative alternatives for what isn’t.  Run your life like a company you would want to invest in.

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